You know what is really interesting about Sons of Anarchy? So many of the viewers buy into the club life and how “things are supposed to be done” when in reality the entire show is about how the customs of masculinity found in the MC world ultimately fail these guys.
They are put into an environment where there are social expectations of how “men” are supposed to handle their issues. They can’t admit vulnerability or weakness - something Gemma further reinforces in Jax - you see her saying this exact thing to him in the next episode. And, oh, funny enough, this is also the exact same reason Gemma gave Nero for why JT had to be murdered. He was weak. He was a liability.
The entire club code is so twisted because it gives these guys a way to rationalize their brutality and violence. You wronged me. I wrong you back. You hurt me. I hurt you worse.
This mindset leads to violence becoming an every day affair, it leads to any slight being made against any member of the club the potential to incite a full on war because otherwise this would mean you are admitting to some sort of weakness. You aren’t allowed to resolve conflict by any other means because violence has become second nature and easy, and worse EXPECTED.
that’s one of the things I really like about Sutter.
This is the point of JT’s diary and the “Couldn’t be helped” that Jax said to Clay in 6x11, as well as Usher words to Gemma: “This life, it ain’t romantic or free. There’s no path to anything that makes any sense. It’s just dirty and sad. And we both know it’s only gonna get worse.”
Every season starts with a “this time we will change things for good” that get punctually disappointed because everybody keeps following the same rules all over again, even if things get worse and sadder. They fail to handle things differently because in order to change they should walk a path they have never seen, and this life is the only kind of life they know. and when help comes, it’s always too late.
Take Juice in 6x12. MC are afraid someone will rat, but they weren’t able to see in time Juice’s issues and he ended up spitting out about the price he paid for gaining back the club’s trust (Arcadio’s old lady) to the only person who stayed behind for him, Nero. And now Nero knows Jax lay to him and the only legal business of the club is now jeopardized. And again, all because Jax answered violence with violence, Clay-way.